Children and the Law Of Attraction, Meeting Resistance

Children and the Law Of Attraction

Meeting Resistance

Take a piece of notebook paper and place one title for each of the following areas we have covered on the top of each page.

Giving unlimited, unconditional love.

Creating a positive environment for your child.

Looking at the audio, visual, and verbal input you are allowing.

Teaching your child about living a life of love and acceptance of the self.

Omitting negative words, especially the words don’t, not, and no.

Turning negative desire statements into positive desire statements.

Playing the, don’t, not, and no game.

Asking the question, “So, what do you want?”

You receive what you ask for, words = thoughts = vibes = results.

Finding the positive in all situations.

Gratitude journaling.

Contrast and what you DO want.

Title each page with one of the above. These pages will now become your journal page guides. Think about how many times you have done each one and what changes, or results you experienced. Note specific events and what was said and done. It will be useful in the future to have these notes to review. You can even date the event. This will give you a time frame as things change, and you will be able to go back in a few weeks, months, or a year and read how things “used to be!”

Resistance

Sometimes when we are trying to make positive changes we will encounter resistance. Resistance can be anything from a child who will not listen to you when you try to explain how things work best, to a child seeming to purposely oppose your directions and suggestions. This is common and nothing to worry about as long as you continue to show leadership and consistency. Here is an example of a true event.

Mary has four children. Her oldest daughter, Sarah, has been listening to Mary talk about the Law Of Attraction for several months but a few weeks back Sarah started acting very rude to everyone including Mary. When Mary asked Sarah to assist in a chore, Sarah simply walked away from her as if not to hear the request. In addition to that, Sarah started saying “no” to Mary. Sarah also started picking on her younger siblings and saying mean things. After discussing the situation with her husband, Mary asked Sarah to tell her what had been happening at school. After a bit of hesitation Sarah finally said her “friends” had started being rude and mean to her at school, which was upsetting her. After several minutes of conversation, Mary pointed out to Sarah how the Law Of Attraction was giving her back what she was putting out. Sarah was starting to experience the negativity she had been showing towards her family members. "You are getting what you are sending out. You are being mean, causing arguments, ignoring my requests, and now that is what is happing to you." Mary said, “I have explained how things that we do come back to us because that is what we are vibrating. Instead of being nice, helpful, and polite, you have chosen to do otherwise. You should think about the things you enjoy in a friend, and be specific. Think about what it is you DO want. Think of the best qualities your good friends have and put them on a list. These are the things you will want to find in a friend. Take a few days to make your list, and then read it everyday. You will start meeting people who have those fine qualities and begin to make new, positive, friendships.”

This is a perfect example of how things work. We get what we vibrate, and we have the gift of choice. We get to choose what we are going to do and say. When we make the choice to become negative, we will attract negativity. When we choose to become positive, we will attract positive.

Continue to be positive with your children, and they will learn to be positive. When they begin to show negativity you can remind them that the choices we make will affect what we receive. Remain calm when you receive resistance and chose your words carefully. Remember that you are their primary example, and keep your journals going.

Have fun!

With much Love,

Yolanda

Children and the Law Of Attraction, Practice makes Perfect

Children and the Law Of Attraction

Practice makes Perfect

Over the last two weeks, I have talked about two of the most important aspects of the Law Of Attraction. The law states what you give your time, energy, and focus to you will receive whether positive or negative. Yes, that is correct. Positive or negative, you will receive what you vibrate. A vibration is a feeling, and we all have feelings. In fact, at every moment we are experiencing a feeling, which is sending off a vibration. The job for the universe is to match your vibration.

Words  =  Thoughts  =  Feelings  =  Results

Words  =  Thoughts  =  Vibrations  =  Results

The first week’s challenge was to look differently at the role you play as a parent, and to say something positive to your child each and every day. I recently had a conversation with my sister. Our children are adults, but I wanted to share this for the positive view that is so important in everything we do and say. My sister told me that she was upset with her daughter for running over an orange road cone. Because she ran over the cone, it became lodged under her car and she had to call a friend for assistance. While removing the cone, her friend realized her water pump was leaking. He told her she should ask her dad to fix it for her. I told my sister that it was actually a blessing that she ran over the cone. Because of that, the leak in the water pump was found before there was serious trouble which could have landed her daughter stranded in a much more dangerous situation. Thinking of the value of this situation, and seeing the positive, my sister’s attitude changed, and the vibration she gave off from this way of thinking about the situation became a positive instead of negative.

Journaling

Have you ever kept a diary, or tried journaling? Keeping a gratitude journal will help you to start realizing the positive things that are taking place in your life on a daily basis. You could start a journal with your children. Ask them to tell you something that they are grateful for that day. Changing our perspective changes our feelings, and if we can change the negative to positive, then write about it, we will be sending positive vibes out into the universe, which will then create more positive situations returned to us. Another thing journaling does is it gives us time to reflect on ourselves. Changing our thoughts isn’t always easy. If someone is used to always seeing or hearing the negative, it will take practice to find the positive.

Putting positive actions and words into practice, feeling love for others and ourselves, letting go of the negative, feeling open to receiving all we desire, and journaling our gratitude will assist you in teaching the Law Of Attraction to your children. You will become their primary example and teacher. They will find self-love, gratitude, become optimistic, be happy, and share their good feelings with others. Being optimistic does not mean we do not see reality. It means we realize that we were meant to be happy. Share some happiness with your children on a daily basis. Get them involved in thinking and speaking positive.

Contrast and the Law Of Attraction

How do we learn to present our desire statements in a positive way? Knowing what you do not want will tell you what you DO want. In the past, I would to refer to the negative things as “things I hated, or didn’t like, or I would even say why does this have to happen?” I have since learned that having things that are not what we want, teaches us what exactly we do want. My first LOA teacher, Michael Losier, teaches that you don’t call the pizza parlor and tell them what you don’t want right? When you call to place an order, you tell them what it is you do want.

How do you know what it is you don’t want? Well, if it doesn’t make you feel good, if it doesn’t taste good, if it doesn’t sound good, then you know you don’t want it right? The “don’t wants” are contrast. By having contrast in our lives, we learn what it is that we truly DO want!

I prefer to avoid conflict, so I surround myself with positive like-minded people. I keep myself in a positive frame of mind, and allow others to have their own opinions without having to insist that I am correct, regardless of the topic. I listen to music that is relaxing, or uplifting. I watch videos about LOA, or positive spiritual advise. I create an environment that supports the lifestyle I wish to live. It’s that simple. Did it take time, energy, and focus to get here? Yes. Does it take nurturing, care, and attention on a daily basis? Yes it does. Is it worth it? Yes, it is!

Creating your Contrast List

Take a piece of paper and divide it in half long ways. On one side you will write the things you don’t want. Take time and think of how you can reframe what it is that you do want, and write it on the opposite side. This will become your contrast sheet, and it will help you to start thinking in a positive uplifting way of the things you do want in your life. Here is an example:

I don’t want to be late for work.     I am always on time for my job.

I don’t want my home messy.       I enjoy living in a neat clean environment.

I don’t have enough money.          I always have more than enough money.

My children always fight.                My children are well behaved.

Try this at home with your children. Create your positive desire statements using your contrast sheet, and read the positive statements daily. Have fun, be creative, and you will begin to see a change in your children and your lifestyle.

With much Love,

Yolanda

Children and the Law Of Attraction, Omitting Negative Words

Children and the Law of Attraction

Omitting The Negative Words

Don't, Not, and No

One of the first things I was taught about using the Law Of Attraction was to omit negative words from my vocabulary. The three most important words to leave out of your desire statements are Don’t, Not, and No.

One of the first words a child learns to use is no. As parents, we say no to our children at a very young age. If our child is going to touch something, or asks for something they can’t have, tries to do something we don’t want them to do, says something we don’t want them to say…the list goes on and on.

If we continue to use the word “no”, they learn to use the word no. The challenge here is to find another way to say what it is we do want of them. Instead of saying something like “no, you can’t have soda”, we could say “I would like you to have water, milk, juice, or what ever it is you prefer them to have. They may fuss a bit, but by leaving out the no, you convey what it is you want of them instead of what you do not want. You turn your response from a negative to a positive. They will learn from you to omit the word no, and start saying what it is they do want in a positive statement. We are their first line of example.

Why We Want To Omit Negative Words

The law of attraction does not recognize don’t, not, and no. The example I learned was, if you Google “no football” what do you get? Football. No means nothing. You will still get the subject you are searching for regardless of using the term “no”. Because of this, saying something like “no running in the house” becomes “run in the house”, “no fighting” usually will not encourage children to stop fighting. A statement such as “I would appreciate it if you would walk when you are in the house”, or “I would appreciate it if you will play nicely together”, works wonders not only for you but for your children as well. Do you feel the difference in the energy of those two sentences?

It’s all about the energy we generate when we are saying something. Words become thoughts, thoughts create vibrations, and vibrations become results. Finding new, positive ways of saying things will create positive feelings, which will bring about positive results.

I played a game with my grandchildren when I first started teaching them about the law of attraction, and told them we were going to stop saying don’t, not, and no. I gave each of them a jar with quarters in it. The rules are if someone is caught saying don’t, not, or no, they have to put one of their quarters in the jar of the person who caught them. Needless to say within 10 minutes they were catching each other almost immediately. Also, I noticed that they were catching themselves and quickly changing their sentences.

My middle granddaughter likes to tell her little brother no all the time. Instead of asking him for what she does want, she simply says “No Aden!” Of course this brings a negative response from him. Another part of the game rules is once someone is caught saying no, they have to reframe the remark. For example, if we are playing cards and Aden goes out of turn, instead of saying “no, it’s not your turn!” she has to reframe her remark in a positive way such as “your turn is after mine, so please wait until I’m done.”

Younger children need reminders all the time, but if you are consistent with your practice, they will learn and follow. “I don’t want to go to bed” will become “I would like to stay up a little longer.” “Don’t forget to do your homework” becomes “Remember to do your homework.” Don’t slam the door!” becomes “Please close the door quietly.” The feelings behind these sentences can be easily felt, and the more positive feeling is always the best. In fact, you will find yourself feeling a lot better almost immediately. You too will start catching yourself using these words, and changing your sentences.

So, What Do You Want?

Another part of this action is asking the question, “So what do you want?” If your child says, “I don’t want to share my toys,” ask “so what do you want?” Help them to realize they need to reframe their desire in a positive statement. “I want to play alone right now.” “I don’t want ketchup on my hamburger” can become “I would like my hamburger without ketchup please.” “I’m not going to go outside” can become “I would like to stay inside right now.” “You can not have that!” becomes “Perhaps we will get that at another time.”

It isn’t the easiest thing to do, and it will take practice to master, but it is worth its weight in gold. Presenting our desire statements in a positive way will bring positive results that will change your life, your family dynamics, and it will allow your children to learn how to speak in a positive way.

Remember, words become thoughts, and thoughts create vibrations or feelings, (good or bad), which create results. We get what we vibrate! Positive vibrations = positive results. Negative vibrations = negative results. Change your words = change your results.

Words = Thoughts = Feelings (Vibes) = Results

Have fun with this one, and please feel free to comment, or ask questions. I would enjoy hearing from you.

With much Love,

Yolanda

Children and the Law Of Attraction

I have been studying the Law Of Attraction for a year now, and in that time it has been my pleasure to meet so many people from different walks of life who all have the same thing to offer.

Love.

They are all offering love. Unlimited, unconditional, pure from the heart, free of charge, love. There is nothing to buy, nothing to agree to, nothing to give back. It comes from their hearts straight to those who choose to listen and change their lives for the better.

I can't begin to tell you how many times I have thought, if only I had learned this stuff when I was a child. My entire life as I know it would have been different. My internal suffering would not have been. My lack of self-esteem, my dislike of self, my inability to believe in myself and others, would never have happened. Anger and sorrow may have had a brief moment of my time and attention and worrying about what others thought of me would have taken a back seat to my peace of mind and happiness.

Yes, I am talking about the Law of Attraction. The Universal law that says, you receive what you give your energy, attention, and focus to.

Have you ever desired something and realized you received it? Have you ever had a friend call just at the moment you were thinking about them? It may be minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, or years, but at some point you will receive what you ask for.

Because I know this to be true, and because of my personal experience I have decided that I want to help parents teach their children about the Law of Attraction. I want our future generations to have a better quality of life regardless of their physical surroundings. I want them to grow up with self-esteem and the knowledge that they can have what ever they want in life. They can be what ever they want to be. They are success, peace, love, happiness, and all things that are good. It's all about perspective and perception.

How do you create a positive environment for your child? How do you see life and opportunities? What type of input do you allow in your home, and surround your children with?

These are important questions to ask ourselves and to take seriously. I know life can be hectic at times, and it may seem like there is too much going on, however, that is simply a perspective. We can look at our busy lives as challenges. The challenge is to stay happy regardless of what is going on around us. To feel relaxed, and confident that we can do all things. To ask ourselves how we brought this upon ourselves, and if we are not happy about it, what are we going to do to change it.

Life is wonderful, and so is love. We can start with finding the love in ourselves, and towards ourselves. I personally had difficulty with this, and took a course by Max Ryan (attractpositiveresults.com), which changed my perspective about myself. I now love myself more and more each day. This is a huge positive step for me.

Today is the perfect day to start teaching your child about living a life of love and acceptance of the self. About dreaming big, and knowing it can and will happen. I hope you will continue to follow my blog on this subject. There is a lot to cover, and I will be posting each week. This week I challenge you to look differently at the role you play as a parent. To say something positive to your child each and every day, and to look at what words you are using and what type of input you are allowing your child or children to be exposed to.

With much Love,
Yolanda