Children and the Law Of Attraction, Omitting Negative Words

Children and the Law of Attraction

Omitting The Negative Words

Don't, Not, and No

One of the first things I was taught about using the Law Of Attraction was to omit negative words from my vocabulary. The three most important words to leave out of your desire statements are Don’t, Not, and No.

One of the first words a child learns to use is no. As parents, we say no to our children at a very young age. If our child is going to touch something, or asks for something they can’t have, tries to do something we don’t want them to do, says something we don’t want them to say…the list goes on and on.

If we continue to use the word “no”, they learn to use the word no. The challenge here is to find another way to say what it is we do want of them. Instead of saying something like “no, you can’t have soda”, we could say “I would like you to have water, milk, juice, or what ever it is you prefer them to have. They may fuss a bit, but by leaving out the no, you convey what it is you want of them instead of what you do not want. You turn your response from a negative to a positive. They will learn from you to omit the word no, and start saying what it is they do want in a positive statement. We are their first line of example.

Why We Want To Omit Negative Words

The law of attraction does not recognize don’t, not, and no. The example I learned was, if you Google “no football” what do you get? Football. No means nothing. You will still get the subject you are searching for regardless of using the term “no”. Because of this, saying something like “no running in the house” becomes “run in the house”, “no fighting” usually will not encourage children to stop fighting. A statement such as “I would appreciate it if you would walk when you are in the house”, or “I would appreciate it if you will play nicely together”, works wonders not only for you but for your children as well. Do you feel the difference in the energy of those two sentences?

It’s all about the energy we generate when we are saying something. Words become thoughts, thoughts create vibrations, and vibrations become results. Finding new, positive ways of saying things will create positive feelings, which will bring about positive results.

I played a game with my grandchildren when I first started teaching them about the law of attraction, and told them we were going to stop saying don’t, not, and no. I gave each of them a jar with quarters in it. The rules are if someone is caught saying don’t, not, or no, they have to put one of their quarters in the jar of the person who caught them. Needless to say within 10 minutes they were catching each other almost immediately. Also, I noticed that they were catching themselves and quickly changing their sentences.

My middle granddaughter likes to tell her little brother no all the time. Instead of asking him for what she does want, she simply says “No Aden!” Of course this brings a negative response from him. Another part of the game rules is once someone is caught saying no, they have to reframe the remark. For example, if we are playing cards and Aden goes out of turn, instead of saying “no, it’s not your turn!” she has to reframe her remark in a positive way such as “your turn is after mine, so please wait until I’m done.”

Younger children need reminders all the time, but if you are consistent with your practice, they will learn and follow. “I don’t want to go to bed” will become “I would like to stay up a little longer.” “Don’t forget to do your homework” becomes “Remember to do your homework.” Don’t slam the door!” becomes “Please close the door quietly.” The feelings behind these sentences can be easily felt, and the more positive feeling is always the best. In fact, you will find yourself feeling a lot better almost immediately. You too will start catching yourself using these words, and changing your sentences.

So, What Do You Want?

Another part of this action is asking the question, “So what do you want?” If your child says, “I don’t want to share my toys,” ask “so what do you want?” Help them to realize they need to reframe their desire in a positive statement. “I want to play alone right now.” “I don’t want ketchup on my hamburger” can become “I would like my hamburger without ketchup please.” “I’m not going to go outside” can become “I would like to stay inside right now.” “You can not have that!” becomes “Perhaps we will get that at another time.”

It isn’t the easiest thing to do, and it will take practice to master, but it is worth its weight in gold. Presenting our desire statements in a positive way will bring positive results that will change your life, your family dynamics, and it will allow your children to learn how to speak in a positive way.

Remember, words become thoughts, and thoughts create vibrations or feelings, (good or bad), which create results. We get what we vibrate! Positive vibrations = positive results. Negative vibrations = negative results. Change your words = change your results.

Words = Thoughts = Feelings (Vibes) = Results

Have fun with this one, and please feel free to comment, or ask questions. I would enjoy hearing from you.

With much Love,

Yolanda