Believe In Yourself!

Hello,
I hope you are having a good day!

Today I want to talk to you about how special you are. Every person has something to offer. We are all important and we are all one. What do I mean by that? Well, if we look at each other as separate people, then we sometimes treat others in an unkind way. We can also be treated in an unkind way by those who feel they are separate from us.

If we look at everyone as being a part of ourselves, we will treat them nicer, and genuinely care about them. That is because we care about ourselves. This type of thinking may take a little time to get used to, but if we practice daily we will soon start to see everyone in this way and we will be kind to others and others will start to be kind to us.

First thing in the morning when you wake up, think about all the nice things about yourself. You can say things like, I am beautiful. I am smart. I am always seeing the bright side of all the things that happen during my day. Then you can think about the things you are grateful for.

I am grateful for my eyes because they allow me to see the beautiful trees, flowers, and sky. I am grateful for my legs, because they allow me to walk, and run, and play with others. I am grateful for my bed because I can rest when I'm tired. I am grateful for another day.

Try these things everyday and before you know it you will do it all the time! Being grateful for what we have will bring us more good things, and you will start to see all the beautiful things about yourself and others.

Namaste

The Power of Choice

Hello,
I hope you are having a great day.

I'd like to share with you something that only you have. It's the power of choice. Regardless of what other people say or do, they can't choose how you will feel. Only you choose your feelings! Whether you are happy or sad, it is because that is how you are choosing to feel.

Other people are not responsible for our feelings. We think they are because they might say or do something that brings up certain negative feelings within us. That's when we have to stop and think before responding to them. I won't say that this is an easy task for sure, but if you practice staying happy, before you know it, that is how you will feel all the time. No matter what happens.

A law of attraction lifestyle takes each one of us on a journey that can bring great joy and happiness to our lives. It does require patience, and time to learn how to use it, but once you start you will see the difference.

Try this, make a list of some things you would like to have or have happen in your life. It can look like this:

I have a big beautiful house in the mountains.
I am the best football player that ever lived.
I love working from home with my own business.
I enjoy my friends who think like I do.
I like being with people who are nice to me.

These are just a few examples. Make a list of 10 things you would like to happen for you in your life. Be sure to write it down as if it is happening right now. Put your list in your top dresser drawer and read it every morning and every night before bed. You will be surprised when the things you want start to show up in your life!

Namaste

Happiness

We all use the phrase, "I'm happy," now and then, but what does it really mean?

Feeling happy can be as different as we are. Sometimes people are happy just because they are ready to see things in their lives differently. For example, Tommy got a new bicycle for Christmas and was feeling very excited and happy. "I can't wait to ride it!" he said.

On his first try he hit a tree and bent his tire rim. He was thrown off the bike and landed on the neighbors lawn. His father and mother quickly ran to his side. Picking him up slowly, they asked if he had hurt himself, or if he had any pain. "Nope!" he said with a smile.

"I know I must have scared you Mom and Dad, when I hit the tree and fell, and I felt a bit scared too, but it was actually kind of exciting! I don't think I have ever felt my heart beat so hard, and I know my eyes were as wide as saucers! I'm sorry about the front tire, but I will save my allowance and replace it as soon as I can."

In this case, Tommy chose to feel happy. He could have easily cried and complained about the damage to his bicycle, but he appreciated the moment of excitement that he experienced. He knew he would get the bike fixed and would soon be riding it again.

Choose to see the positive side of everything you experience. You will be glad you did!

Two Rules to Happiness

I can't control anyone, and while giving advise often times makes me feel good, it's not always wanted or appreciated. Laying down some ground rules that everyone has to follow is a good start to finding a way to live in harmony.

Take for example, when your children are fighting about something. Most parents will try to control the discussion or argument, and create a solution for them. A solution based on the parent's beliefs, and past experiences. While this is how many parents find solutions for their children, have you ever just let them settle it themselves?

I have read that sometimes children should be allowed to figure things out for themselves. Left to come to decisions and agreements without parental intervention. As long as there is no hitting, or inappropriate language going on, you could just let them figure it out. Perhaps, knowing the law of attraction, a little guidance or ground rules would help them to make those important decisions on their own, and create more peace and harmony between them.

Live by the first rule:
I always have the choice to be happy.

Yes, we always have a choice. In fact, we are making choices all the time. Our emotions are choices as well. If we choose to think of negative things, this can bring feelings of anger, hurt, aggression, depression, anxiety, and so on. We can choose to be happy no matter what the situation. It may not be the easiest thing to do, especially at first. It is something we have to practice every day. There will be easy days, and challenging days, but if we continue to choose happiness, we will find it comes easier and more frequently to us. So, the first lesson is to become aware of what feeling we are choosing to have.

When someone says their behavior is because of something someone else did, we can remind them that regardless of what others choose to do, we are still making a choice for our own feelings and actions, and this is where choosing to be happy will benefit us. Using the actions of others to justify wrong action for ourselves is never the right thing to do. It is a poor choice.

We can have this discussion with our children, and remind them that they are choosing to be upset, when they can be happy. Daily reminders will lead our children and ourselves to a path of inner peace and happiness, and that is a great gift indeed.


Live by the second rule:
What I put my energy and focus on is what I will receive.

If a person is angry for more than 17 seconds, they will increase that anger as time goes on. The negative emotion must be changed before too much time is allowed to go on, or we will find ourselves feeling very unhappy. You may ask, how do I change a negative feeling? One way is to think about whether or not it is worth your happiness to continue to feel negative about the situation.

If we come to realize that the importance of things is simply determined by our beliefs, which can be changed, then we can put more energy and focus on positive things, and put the negative things behind us. Many times our Ego is at work, creating situations where we fight to be right, or insist on having the last word. We may feel that what we have to say is more important than what someone else is saying, there are many things our ego compels us to do that really aren't beneficial to us. Focus on positive good things, put your ego aside, and watch how your world changes.

Try these ideas with yourself, and your children and you will begin to see a change in everyone.

Children and the Law Of Attraction, Manifesting Your Desires

Manifesting Your Desires

One of the most asked questions regarding the Law Of Attraction, is "How do I manifest the things I desire?" Many times I have heard people say, "I have my contrast sheet done, and I have my desire statement done. I have created a dream board. I have asked, and put out to the universe all I really want, but nothing is happening!" Well, let me tell you how it happened for me.

A couple of years ago nothing was happening for me. In spite of what I thought was the correct request, I wasn't receiving anything. Nothing in my life was changing, and I was finding myself feeling more negative than positive most of the time. I did my online searching homework, and found Michael Losier, on youtube, who taught me exactly how the LOA worked. I started practicing daily. I did worksheets, contrast sheets, told myself I could have these things which I desired, but still I was unable to manifest things. 

That's when I realized I was very unhappy inside. I wasn't accepting of myself. I wasn't loving my life, and loving myself. That's where Max Ryan comes in. He is all about love. Through his courses I learned self-love and acceptance. This part of the LOA is very important. While you won't hear it said very often, self-love, and acceptance of the self, is the key to manifesting the things which you desire. Here is how it works.

Once we are clear on what it is that we desire, we can put that desire out to the Universe. Our vibration surrounding that which we desire must be positive, therefore we must believe not only that what we wish for will manifest, but that what we wish for is something we are deserving of. There has to be a pure positive belief behind the request. One of my requests has been for a better monetary situation. I have desired this for longer than I can remember. In fact, I have struggled with money for the better part of my life.

The first shift happened after listening to Michael regarding resistance. Why wasn't my desire manifesting? Resistance? How could that be? Well, I had put my request out to the Universe with a negative vibration because I felt desperate when I would think about my money situation. I didn't realize it at that time, but that was what was happening, and therefore that was what I was receiving. 

Then Max's, "I love myself, I love my life," class started. I realized that I really was unhappy about myself. Somehow, as we age, the physical changes are not always accepted by the mind. How was it I was starting to look so old? As a single person, my chances of finding love were slim to none with this aging body and face... at least that is what I had started to believe.  Every time I looked in the mirror I saw an older woman who was not worthy of love, not a loving spirit worthy of all things good. The shift for me happened about the middle of this set of classes. 

One night, after class, as I laid in bed and reflected on our class conversation, many negative thoughts began to fill my mind. One by one they came, and I realized I had completely forgotten about all those moments in my past. It was like a cleansing of the spirit. It was painful to remember, but it was also like lifting a weight off my shoulders. I took responsibility for those things, and realized how I had played a part in it all by making poor choices. I observed them, felt them, then I let them go, and found true love for myself and my life.

This was a huge step! I also realized that I had always equated money or great wealth with anger, greed, people who were not nice, social differences, a whole lot of negative vibes. Wow, you can imagine my moment of clarity. Here I had been asking for the very thing I hated. I was putting money as the responsible factor for people's behavior. I had even said in the past that I never wanted to be like "that" rich person. Rich people are greedy. No, greedy people are greedy. Imagine that! I had discovered my resistance. A seed planted so many years ago I had completely forgotten about it. I immediately thought about what money really was. It was energy. Pure and simple. It wasn't the root of all evil, it wasn't responsible for the actions of others. It was good, fun, fabulous, high vibe feeling. Talk about a shift, that was a huge shift for me.

Then came the night when as I lay in bed, thinking about everything which had recently happened, I realized that I was happy, feeling joy, at peace, without worry. In fact, I don't know that I had any emotion going on. It was the greatest feeling of peace. It was like I was floating through the room. Nothing mattered anymore. There wasn't any stress, anger, sorrow, desire, unanswered questions. There was nothing. No attachment to anything. Just the most peaceful feeling I have ever in my life experienced. That was the beginning of the manifestation process.

You see, all my life I had desired peace of mind. All my life I had searched for this feeling of peace and happiness, calm, stress free, and worry free existence. I can't begin to tell you how many hours, days, weeks, years, had gone by while I continued to search. This was the greatest manifestation of my life. The Universe had given me what I asked for. It had brought everything I needed to do, know, or have, (as Michael puts it), to manifest my greatest desire. The Universe wrapped me in its arms and held me like a baby. It is a feeling I will never forget, and can only hope to continue to experience again and again.

Not long after that, I changed how I asked for a better financial situation. I put positive vibes into my feelings about it. I told the universe I was even happy to work for additional income. All I needed was enough to cover a few bills which were not being taken care of. But wait, why ask for a little when I would truly enjoy a lot? So, I asked for more than I needed knowing I would find a use for any left over funds. As LOA would have it, within 2 months of asking for a better financial situation, I received a job offer that would put me exactly where I desired to be! I believe this quick manifestation is due to my inner peace and positive vibrational spirit. I have also manifested a few other things as well. I have come to learn that once we find the inner love and acceptance, release attachment to all things, and have an inner peace and joy, the universe can do it's job without interference from us. At least this has been my experience.

If you can master this, you can teach this to your children. They will become masters at allowing the universe to manifest their desires if they are at peace. It starts with you, then you can teach them. I work with my grandchildren almost daily. When they are at odds with each other or within themselves, I remind them that they are Angels, and what do Angels do? I will often ask them. This question brings them to a good place emotionally. That's really all I can ask of them. At least for now, as they are young and just learning how to use the LOA in their lives.

Namaste,

Yolanda

Children and the Law Of Attraction, Working Through Resistance

Children and the Law Of Attraction

Working Through Resistance

Resistance to change seems to be an issue. The first thought is, this is happening because of me. How can that be so? The Law of Attraction says what I give my attention, energy, and focus to is what I will receive. A perfect example is how my day went.

I was up earlier than I needed to be which probably caused me to be more tired than usual. From there, listening to children yell, simply gave me the opportunity to ignore it and stay happy, or to give attention to it and become upset. I chose to become upset. Instead of staying in my Vortex, I chose to become unhappy about all the yelling that I could hear from downstairs. From there, it was off to the volleyball game. The team I play on is for the most part a losing team. Instead of hearing positive court talk from team members, I started hearing “I’m mad,” from several players. They were “mad” at their performance, and one gal even said “I’ll probably not make it over the net, as usual,” as she prepared to serve the ball. I tried to keep it positive. “We can do this, we can win. The game isn’t over until the final point is made!” I tried to cheer. No one was going for it.

At this point I had the choice to let it go and chalk it up to things being status quo, or try talking to the girls about staying positive. Of course I couldn’t resist making things worse. I approached them and said, “We need to be more positive on the court.” No one wanted to listen, and rather than think about how much better things could be by staying positive, knowing we are doing our best, they tuned me out. I had to make a choice, and the choice I made was to quit the team right there and then.

Why? Because doing things that don’t make me happy only result in me being upset thus taking me out of my Vortex. I knew when I started playing with these girls that they were not a top notch team, nor did they seem to want to learn how to play as a team, however, they are all friends with each other, and a couple of them actually have played volleyball for a long time. I can’t swim upstream every week and feel good about it. If they won’t even listen to me for a few minutes, they won’t ever listen.

I made poor choices today. While I know the LOA rules of engagement, I chose to go out of my Vortex, and created a very low vibrational day for myself.

This happens from time to time, especially if you live a life that includes contact with other’s who do not understand or practice the law. That is one of the hardest things to conquer. Realizing that I can control only my emotions. Only I can choose to leave my Vortex (happy place), and no one is responsible for my feelings but myself. Accepting that I cannot control anyone else but myself. That includes children, peers, and other team members. Acceptance that it is sometimes better to be quiet than to share, even if I think it will help.

Thinking that what I am about to say will "make things better," is my ego talking. There will be plenty of times when the ego will make us want to say something about a situation, or give an unwanted response to something that is going on. My wonderful ego. I should have thanked my ego for wanting to “pitch in” and help, then told it to be quiet and just left the game without saying a word. None of the team members were interested in anything I had to say anyway.

Today’s lesson is about knowing when to step away from the “I can fix you” podium, and taking care of yourself. Things would have been wonderful, perfect, and happy for me if only I would have remembered the LOA rules of engagement, and kept myself in my Vortex.

Teaching our children, or even being around other’s can be challenging especially on a day when we are not in alignment with ourselves, and Source. It was a hard lesson to take, but now that I have reflected on things, I see where I will be able to use this day as an example of contrast. Meaning, I have seen and experienced something I didn’t like about my actions, therefore, I have the power to make sure it doesn’t happen again.

With Much Love,

Yolanda

Children and the Law Of Attraction, Meeting Resistance

Children and the Law Of Attraction

Meeting Resistance

Take a piece of notebook paper and place one title for each of the following areas we have covered on the top of each page.

Giving unlimited, unconditional love.

Creating a positive environment for your child.

Looking at the audio, visual, and verbal input you are allowing.

Teaching your child about living a life of love and acceptance of the self.

Omitting negative words, especially the words don’t, not, and no.

Turning negative desire statements into positive desire statements.

Playing the, don’t, not, and no game.

Asking the question, “So, what do you want?”

You receive what you ask for, words = thoughts = vibes = results.

Finding the positive in all situations.

Gratitude journaling.

Contrast and what you DO want.

Title each page with one of the above. These pages will now become your journal page guides. Think about how many times you have done each one and what changes, or results you experienced. Note specific events and what was said and done. It will be useful in the future to have these notes to review. You can even date the event. This will give you a time frame as things change, and you will be able to go back in a few weeks, months, or a year and read how things “used to be!”

Resistance

Sometimes when we are trying to make positive changes we will encounter resistance. Resistance can be anything from a child who will not listen to you when you try to explain how things work best, to a child seeming to purposely oppose your directions and suggestions. This is common and nothing to worry about as long as you continue to show leadership and consistency. Here is an example of a true event.

Mary has four children. Her oldest daughter, Sarah, has been listening to Mary talk about the Law Of Attraction for several months but a few weeks back Sarah started acting very rude to everyone including Mary. When Mary asked Sarah to assist in a chore, Sarah simply walked away from her as if not to hear the request. In addition to that, Sarah started saying “no” to Mary. Sarah also started picking on her younger siblings and saying mean things. After discussing the situation with her husband, Mary asked Sarah to tell her what had been happening at school. After a bit of hesitation Sarah finally said her “friends” had started being rude and mean to her at school, which was upsetting her. After several minutes of conversation, Mary pointed out to Sarah how the Law Of Attraction was giving her back what she was putting out. Sarah was starting to experience the negativity she had been showing towards her family members. "You are getting what you are sending out. You are being mean, causing arguments, ignoring my requests, and now that is what is happing to you." Mary said, “I have explained how things that we do come back to us because that is what we are vibrating. Instead of being nice, helpful, and polite, you have chosen to do otherwise. You should think about the things you enjoy in a friend, and be specific. Think about what it is you DO want. Think of the best qualities your good friends have and put them on a list. These are the things you will want to find in a friend. Take a few days to make your list, and then read it everyday. You will start meeting people who have those fine qualities and begin to make new, positive, friendships.”

This is a perfect example of how things work. We get what we vibrate, and we have the gift of choice. We get to choose what we are going to do and say. When we make the choice to become negative, we will attract negativity. When we choose to become positive, we will attract positive.

Continue to be positive with your children, and they will learn to be positive. When they begin to show negativity you can remind them that the choices we make will affect what we receive. Remain calm when you receive resistance and chose your words carefully. Remember that you are their primary example, and keep your journals going.

Have fun!

With much Love,

Yolanda